Being in career field that I am in I often here "It's not fair" which causes me to have an internal eye roll but a sympathetic nod on the outside. Well until I get to know my clients and then I do give them a real eye roll and tell them to get a grip and threaten to smack them upside the head. I think I have noticed more "it's not fair" statements or sentiments in the last few days than I ever have in my life. I am not one to play the "it's not fair" card in my own life. I see it much like the Joker card in a real deck of cards, not real useful unless you want to play some kinda weird game.
*okie notices the confused look on her readers faces* YES THIS MAYBE CRAFT RELATED! So just hear me out....unless you want to leave *okie points to the door* but don't grab one of the cookies, those are for people who stay and read the whole post! *okie sighs and continues*
Being on the Cricut message board I get to hear the "It's not fair" thing quite often *okie wishes she had a nickel for each time because she would be bloggin about this on a brand new computer* and with it being the time of the year for the winter CHA I am ready to hear it more. There are always people who get to go to CHA and they get some really neat goodies, meet famous scrappy crafty people, have wonderful stories to tell and create some great memories. Then there are those who could have gone but for one reason or another didn't and they start hollering "It's not fair". Of course I have little sympathy for that line and I want to tell you something that happened this week that I truly felt like screaming "IT IS NOT FAIR!!" And I am hoping to share this only to help other change their perspective about fairness in our world.
I had a session this week with a person we shall call Rover. Rover tells me that he will be leaving next month because the Coast Guard need him to do an sniper assignment. Knowing circumstances of Rover's life I knew this could NOT be true and started to confront the situation as to keep him from extending the fabrication any further. He was not pleased with my confrontation but we were able to get to the real truth. Rover wants to be in the military. He wants to serve and protect this country. He wants this more than anything in the world. But the sad truth is that Rover will never be able to do so because of he lacks the mental capacities to do so and through process he was able to admit this. Now here is where I wanted to scream...Rover turns to me and says "Why do I have to be this way? Why can't I be normal so I can serve my country. That is all I want to do. I know I am MR but I am high level. I just want to protect our country". At this point I had to muster ever bit of professional fiber in my being to maintain my composure and tell him "I don't know why you have to be MR. Some people are and some people are not. There are some things in life we have to accept and this is one of those things in your life that you will have to accept. You still have a role in life. There are things you do here that are very helpful to others". But I just so wanted to scream "IT'S NOT FAIR!"
Okay okay so my point to all of this is, next time you feel like something isn't fair because you don't get to get something for free, or attend an event you would like to, buy a new awesome crafty tool, etc. I would like for you to change your perspective a little and think of Rover and how all he wanted to do was serve his country and had to accept it will never happen for him because he is intelligent enough to know his mental development is delayed but not intelligent enough to serve the country he loves. And that my friends...is truly NOT FAIR!